Questions often arise on many Thailand forums about how to sponsor a Thai girl. So you are considering sponsoring your Thai girlfriend? Not sure what being a sponsor is? Don’t know how much money to send? Unsure if you should even send money?
The short answer is no. But that all depends on how long you have known her and how much time you have actually spent together. Sometimes when making first contact on a dating website a girl from Thailand will almost immediately ask if you can send some money.
Then the old guilt trip of “no money no food to eat.” Don’t fall for it. Some of these girls spend a lot of time online and just keep using the same strategy over and over and eventually some gullible guys will start sending money and pretty soon they have themselves a pretty sweet monthly income.
I’d say about 30 percent of them will ask for money even before you even meet and if it happens to you my advice is to move on. They are not all like that and in Thailand, there’s a lot of fish in the sea.
A lot of the single women in Thailand that you meet will be looking for a serious long-term relationship and/or marriage. Some will want marriage and will want it fast. Most of these whirlwind marriages turn sour very quickly as the cultural differences are enormous.
Stick to your guns and do as you would do in your home country. That “getting to know each other” phase is still important and especially important in Thailand.
The cultural differences between women in Thailand and western men are immense. Many foreign men learn this the hard way and in the process, lose everything they have. There are many that are sincerely looking for a meaningful relationship but there are also some that are complete sharks. So beware…
Thai Girls And Money
For some Thai women, money is the one and only motive that they are looking for a relationship or marriage with a foreign man. Although there are many that are completely sincere, it can’t be stressed enough that many foreign men are forced to return to their home country from Thailand with absolutely nothing left.
This does not apply to all, as there are many happy relationships, but it is actually quite common.
It’s very easy for a fifty or sixty or so year old man who hasn’t had much attention from women in his home country, to fall head over heels in love with a hot twenty or thirty-something-year-old hot and sexy chick in Thailand.
Just to find that after he’s bought a house and some land, maybe paid a huge sin sot (sin sot is a gift you pay the girl’s family upon marriage) gave her control of his money and soon after has been kicked out on the street.
Rule #1 – Never give a Thai girl any kind of control of your money.
You can’t legally own land in Thailand and if you buy a house and some land, everything will be in her name. If for some reason she or even her family, decides that she doesn’t want you there…you’re out and there’s not much you can do about it. For most Thai girls their family will be #1 and you will always have to take a back seat.
For reasons such as this, the suicide rate among foreign men in Thailand is, unfortunately, high. You can buy a condo in Thailand and have it in your name but rent is always a much safer option.
Places to rent in Thailand are plentiful and rent in Thailand (outside of the main tourist areas) is very inexpensive.
Sponsoring… What You Should Know
Often, but not always after a foreign man has met a Thai girl, has spent some time with her and must return to his home country, she will expect some sort of monthly allowance. Kind of like a retainer fee to be his girlfriend while he is not in Thailand. This is known as sponsoring her. If she wants this immediately it’s a pretty good indication that she is only motivated by money.
Maybe you can afford it and it’s no big deal but completely up to you whether you want to sponsor your new Thai girlfriend or not, but it’s not recommended. It is by no means a guarantee that she will be faithful and your money could very well be being used for things that you would not approve of.
How Much To Give
This monthly allowance can be anywhere from 5000 baht to 100,000 baht per month, but it’s normally somewhere between 8000 and 40,000 baht. That all depends on how much you’re willing to give, how much she wants or both.
All fine and dandy but some girls have many sponsors going at the same time. I have heard of bargirls in Pattaya and Bangkok with as many as twenty sponsors going simultaneously.
Just something to consider when you decide to pursue your relationship with your new Thai girlfriend and she requests that you sponsor her. Again this does not apply to all but it is quite common.